Assuming we have all had some experience with a baby, we recognize that when a baby cries it is in need. If the baby is not recognized, its cries become more insistent. Still left alone, the cry increases in volume and vigor. Ignored, the baby may throw a tantrum trying to get its need met.
I often use this analogy to helps clients to understand what is happening in the body. The body is our baby and how we treat it causes reactions large and small. Similar to the above scenario, when the body is hurting it cries. This may appear as a slight pain or discomfort. If we override this whimper, the body resorts to an adjustment in volume, perhaps increasing the pain level. Still no response, the body finds a deep pain or it reacts with bowel issues or anxiety. If we continue to ignore its plea for help, it becomes insistent with persistent headaches, back spasms, or incapacitation. All of this in an attempt to get us to STOP, LISTEN, and RESPOND to its cries.
Why do we do that, ignore all of these signs and let our baby wail? We all have our reasons but mostly, we have trained ourselves to overrun our internal wisdom. Some people even look upon this act as being strong. Beating ourselves up, ignoring our body, mind, and emotions, that is one of our greatest weaknesses.
I employ you to tune in and start saying, Yes Baby! When the slightest plea arises, take a moment to check-in with yourself. STOP whatever you are doing for a moment and take a breath. That simple act can save you from causing an internal avalanche. LISTEN, so that you can hear what your baby needs; perhaps a sip of water, a bathroom break, a moment to look outside. Given the situation, RESPOND as best as you are able. If you need to put off a response, make a deal with yourself and do it later. Whatever you do, honor the agreement you have made or you will have an uncontrollable baby on your hands.
Paying attention and giving our baby what it needs, not only settles the baby, it makes the entire family HAPPY and HEALTHY. Yes Baby! Be well…. Nancy T