“The Hook”

Recently, I was visiting with my friend Sarah. It was so sweet to spend time together. When Sarah inquired how I was, I offhandedly said, “I’m better now.”

Lovingly, Sarah asked about what was troubling me. Then she said, “You don’t have to talk about it if you don’t want to.”

I hesitated for a moment and then I filled Sarah in on what had been bothering me. With my tale weaving its way into the world, I realized that it no longer held the charge it once had. I spoke without breaking down. Sarah’s tears didn’t stop me because I knew that whatever I was saying, both of us needed to hear it. In that moment, I knew that healing had occurred. I thanked Sarah for giving me the option to share or not. Having a kind and receptive audience is truly a gift.  

As we continued our conversation Sarah spoke of how great her life is at this time. After my narrative Sarah said, “Well, some people live for the drama. Without it they wouldn’t know how to go on.” While she was speaking, Sarah pointed to herself. I never pictured Sarah as a “Drama Queen” so her action surprised me. It also enlightened me. I realized that I am a “Trauma Queen.” In therapy sessions, I love helping people release trauma.* I wear that crown proudly.

Sarah spoke of her relationship. One statement really struck me, “I just don’t take ‘The Hook’.” When Sarah elaborated, I learned that what she meant was follow old patterns or get drawn into the drama. Presently, she is either silent or she simply let’s “The Hook” go by for another fish to grab.

“Brilliant,” I thought.

Much of the time we walk directly into our own misery. Every human being has hurt and we have hurt others. Families are grand masters at pushing each others buttons. Partners know just where to go to get a reaction out of their mate. Kids throw tantrums to achieve their goal. BUT, it is up to us to take “The Hook” or let it go by.

Being a Caribbean girl, I think of my friends in the sea often. After my conversation with Sarah, I visualized hooks just passing the fish and I by in the crystal blue water. In the salty sea, the fish and I swim peacefully knowing that there are better ways to sustain ourselves. After all, if we take “The Hook” we may be in for a ride that doesn’t end well. Let’s face it, even the fish have a choice. Be well… Nancy T.

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Something New

Well, it’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood here in Prescott, AZ. I hope the same is true wherever you are presently calling home. Change is in the air and this new blog arrangement is the start for me. My server decided not to continue supporting my old blog. I hope you don’t miss the green, yellow and white too much. WordPress will have its learning curve, so please bear with me.

Change is a funny thing. Much of the time we ask for it, but when it comes we struggle to accept the changes. Technological changes are not my favorite. I’m just glad when they work. Spending yesterday afternoon setting up my new blog was not an ideal way to occupy my day, but it will benefit me in the end.

Change in environment is always a challenge. After spending two weeks in Chicago, which felt like two months, I have been very mellow at home. Perhaps, a bit too mellow as things are piling up and my accomplishments have been small. The pace of life in Chicago compared to Prescott is dynamic. I wish the two mixed better and I could maintain greater balance. The thing that I have learned in my travels is to take care of me no matter where I am, and that feels good. I “plan” a lot, but life pulls me onto its course. I can either go along with it or fight it and be miserable. I have to say that I tracked the universe well in Chicago with the help of my family, friends, and clientele. Everyone was welcoming and understanding which created fond memories. It surely was a whirlwind tour.

Something that changed inside of me was a sense of clarity. In my 50th year I had been flailing around, evaluating and reevaluating my life. In Chicago, I did a hypnotherapy session with Rich Watt* and clarity appeared. Although my choices weren’t always easy, things became clear and gratitude followed. Clarity showed up in all of my relationships. At the Fine Arts Building on Michigan Avenue, I clearly inspired my audience with my life story and reading from my book “Finding My Way From Paralysis To A Rich, Full Life.” That was an internal change that left me smiling.

My Chi-town relations told me how much they enjoy my blogs. That is what keeps me writing them. Please feel free to comment directly on the blog site so that others can be inspired. I’ll keep writing if you keep reading. Pass it on or tell your friends to subscribe. There is something new in the air, and much more to follow. Be well… Nancy T.

Rich Watt, Clinical Hypnotherapist ~ rwatt2@gmail.com

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